Perks Magazine

Ever wondered what happens inside a BDSM and fetish club? I donned a black mini dress, fishnets, CFM boots and my voyeur’s cap to find out.

Sex ‘addiction’ has become a label we slap on anyone we perceive as having a higher than ‘normal’ sex drive (whatever that is) or whose behaviour sits outside social norms (whatever those are). Is this just another form of slut-shaming?

Researchers have now shown that Hummers are one of the first real signs of marriage breakdown. Couples who use a Hummer as part of their wedding ceremonies will have an 87% chance of divorce within the first 6 months of marriage.

When I think of sacred sexuality (or Tantra), it sets off my bullshit meter. I picture caftans and communes, or people publicly displaying a kind of seventies big-bush sexuality that feels particularly unsexy to me. Is this sex-negativity in spirituality’s clothing? Or is something else going on?

‘Why do to your man what he can do to himself?’ This week I ventured into the erotic world of Tantric massage.

Want to explore the pleasures of playing with rope? Rope Sensei has got your back.

Unless we make room for open and honest communication early on, we can only end up with a host of dissatisfied people, constantly seeking one thing, but finding another.

‘How I became aware of my masochism.’ Erotic novelist David (Pinke Grapefruit) explores what being a masochist means to him.

Within non-monogamy, what does cheating mean anyway? Tessa shares her story.

Rhonda explores her toxic relationship with body image, attachment to self-criticism, and aversion to self-acceptance.

Rhonda explores her toxic relationship with body image, attachment to self-criticism, and aversion to self-acceptance.

The first in a series of posts where Rhonda explores self-image, projection, and the ego-defences we use to preserve our sense of self.

Rhonda Perky goes under the covers to discover what it means to be a Modern Slut.

Who helps the helpers? Rhonda reflects on what it means to not be okay when you are the one who is supposed to keep it together.

Rhonda reflects on the rise and fall of desire in a long term relationship.

Rhonda struggles to define what ‘relationship’ might mean while still exploring her sexuality.

Negotiating safe sex should be straightforward. But when those involved fear rejection and judgement, when we associate asking for a condom with calling someone ‘dirty’, when we are socialised to defer to others, it gets complicated.

Is there such a thing as the ‘right’ number of partners?

Rhonda reflects on her struggles to follow her dreams, trapped by the safety and security of inertia.

I can’t change the way we objectify and value physical appearance; I can only change the way I see myself. I am more than my appearance, more than my achievements, and I don’t have to be seen to have value.